Part 7- MLM Myths and Misconceptions that Limit Success

"Our prospects are primarily interested in making more money."

Imagine having 10,000 hundred dollar bills in your possession right now, would you exchange them for other things or hang onto them forever? If you'd exchange them, then it wasn't the money you wanted after all. It's not even what you'd exchange them for that you really want. You really want the feeling you think you'll get by having what you exchanged the money for. It's not about financial freedom, residual income, time, health, etc. It's about the way you think you will feel (emotions) with all of those things. i.e. secure, free, energetic, pleasure, meaningfulness, acceptance, etc... Start exploring “why” your prospects want what they want and how they would feel having it. You'll be amazed at what happens for both of you.

To see this 11 Part series from its beginning go to: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/04/myths-and-misconceptions-that-limit.html
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In his first dozen years in MLM or Network Marketing, Steve Stay experienced what most people would call "total failure" and give them every reason they needed to give up the dream. But that wasn't part of Steve's script as one fateful day a shift happened inside him and the way he experienced the MLM industry dramatically shifted as well. Within three months he was a top earner in the industry. Discover more about Steve's honest take on his 36+ year personal MLM journey at: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/01/steve-stays-mlm-story.html

Part 6- MLM Myths and Misconceptions that Limit Success

"Being totally honest about yourself and the facts of your business could hurt your business."

If it does, you'd better be changing deals and/or your attitude about yourself. Anything less than "total honesty" hurts more than just your business.

Yes, people will pay a lot for B.S. the first time around.

In business you are working at building residual relationships (and therefore income) and the best way to prevent that from happening is to lie about you or your business. Sooner or later the truth will come out and when it does, watch out for the fallout.

There are generally plenty of good truthful things to be excited about with any company, and there are always plenty of good truthful things to be excited about with "you". Risk being "Real"! You'll find the end result is worth it.

If you ever wonder whether what you are feeling is real, a good way to tell is: “Can others bring you down easily”. If they can, you are most likely believing a lie.

The solution is not to leave what you're doing, but to own and embrace the emotions your current experience is creating in you. There are a multitude of techniques to help you process those emotions and in doing so, you will get to know yourself better. When you do, you'll know the right thing for "you" to do.

To see this 11 Part series from its beginning go to: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/04/myths-and-misconceptions-that-limit.html

or Click Here to go to Part 7
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In his first dozen years in MLM or Network Marketing, Steve Stay experienced what most people would call "total failure" and give them every reason they needed to give up the dream. But that wasn't part of Steve's script as one fateful day a shift happened inside him and the way he experienced the MLM industry dramatically shifted as well. Within three months he was a top earner in the industry. Discover more about Steve's honest take on his 36+ year personal MLM journey at: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/01/steve-stays-mlm-story.html

Part 5- MLM Myths and Misconceptions that Limit Success

"A person will fail without a positive attitude."

The key word here is "fail". I've known many people that have experienced what most would consider incredible "success" who have terribly negative attitudes. Now I believe a "negative" attitude will definitely cost you "True Success", but so will what I see being pushed as "a positive attitude" by many in business, especially in the "fake it till you make it" and "enthusiasm" categories. I'm not saying they don't work, the tragic thing is that they do, but sooner or later you come down and the price you pay for having lied to yourself and others isn't worth it. An incredible reality is that no one actually ever fails. Just because you didn't learn what someone else thought you should from an experience doesn't mean you didn't gain anything from it. To think so, is a lie. It's true that masterpieces take time.

To see this 11 Part series from its beginning go to: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/04/myths-and-misconceptions-that-limit.html

or Click Here to go to Part 6
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In his first dozen years in MLM or Network Marketing, Steve Stay experienced what most people would call "total failure" and give them every reason they needed to give up the dream. But that wasn't part of Steve's script as one fateful day a shift happened inside him and the way he experienced the MLM industry dramatically shifted as well. Within three months he was a top earner in the industry. Discover more about Steve's honest take on his 36+ year personal MLM journey at: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/01/steve-stays-mlm-story.html

Part 4- MLM Myths and Misconceptions that Limit Success

"To succeed you need to model yourself after someone who has been successful."

Depending on the level and type of "Success" you want, in trying to become like someone else, we cast aside that which makes us most valuable. You'll find that those who are experiencing "True Success" are just being themselves. They're "Real". The decision to trust my instincts and just "be myself" was one of the hardest things I've ever done. There are so many people out there reminding us of how we should be "acting" if we want "success". But the results I've now experienced from just "being me", makes life and success much easier.

To see this 11 Part series from its beginning go to: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/04/myths-and-misconceptions-that-limit.html

or Click Here to go to Part 5
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In his first dozen years in MLM or Network Marketing, Steve Stay experienced what most people would call "total failure" and give them every reason they needed to give up the dream. But that wasn't part of Steve's script as one fateful day a shift happened inside him and the way he experienced the MLM industry dramatically shifted as well. Within three months he was a top earner in the industry. Discover more about Steve's honest take on his 36+ year personal MLM journey at: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/01/steve-stays-mlm-story.html

Part 3- MLM Myths and Misconceptions that Limit Success

"To succeed, you must believe that your business is better than all the others."

How many times have you been on a conference call or personally heard a distributor putting down other opportunities by representing their opportunity as: “the one and only”, “better than all the others”, “the last great one to come along in this lifetime”, “the one all the top leaders in the industry are flocking too”…. or participating in the war of “the old way of prospecting, that starts with making a list of 100 people” vs. “the new way of attraction marketing, where you only talk to those that contact you” ?

What a tragic attitude fostered by far too many in this industry.

One of the wisest things I learned was to run from the "ours is the one and only" zealots. My association with them was usually short lived as they ended up being the first to jump ship to the next new "one and only", attempting to drag their existing downline, even those they hadn’t personally sponsored, along.

With that said: The business is certainly much more fun to build if you feel your program is the best one for "You" based on your own individual criteria. You will find that when you Totally Accept you, you will allow others to have their own criteria regarding what's best for them… and you will be excited to help them discover their own criteria… even if it doesn’t result in them joining you in your opportunity.

Some people find they love sharing tangible products like skin care, candles or nutritionals. Others are more attracted to services like legal services, discount health care or energy. Some people like to share with family and friends and talk face to face, where other love perfecting their marketing skills through print advertising or the utilizing the internet. I know very successful networkers that love to cold call list or even go door to door.

We are all unique and I hope you will learn to enjoy, celebrate and encourage that uniqueness.
Both methods of prospecting (old and new) are alive and working very well. They are just two different but effective ways to build. Both take concentrated committed effort (over a longer period of time than just a couple of months) to mature into a successful business.

If you find yourself feeling a need to put down another person, opportunity or system, step back and take a look at yourself to discover what it is that you are really putting down about yourself.
There are an abundance of reasons to be excited about any legitimate network marketing opportunity that you should never need to put another down to make yours look good.

To see this 11 Part series from its beginning go to: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/04/myths-and-misconceptions-that-limit.html

or Click Here to go to Part 4
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In his first dozen years in MLM or Network Marketing, Steve Stay experienced what most people would call "total failure" and give them every reason they needed to give up the dream. But that wasn't part of Steve's script as one fateful day a shift happened inside him and the way he experienced the MLM industry dramatically shifted as well. Within three months he was a top earner in the industry. Discover more about Steve's honest take on his 36+ year personal MLM journey at: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/01/steve-stays-mlm-story.html

Part 2- MLM Myths and Misconceptions that Limit Success

"People fail because they picked the wrong MLM Company, Product or Pay Plan."

First off let’s deal with the words “FAIL” and “Wrong”. It’s arrogant and judgmental to even use them. There is no way for us to know what any decision will really lead to for ourselves, let alone another.

"Timing" should probably be part of the above list also. It’s a fact that some companies go under, some products end up being "snake oil", some pay plans are more difficult than others and trends can help or hurt you, but the Only reason people experience “Success” is because they are ready to.

This is an industry that will eventually teach you that it is all about finding the right "You". It is what network marketing, "The Perfect Playground" is best at and is the reason most people get nervous and run from it. They aren’t ready for that discovery yet and that’s OK. When you do find the right "You", it doesn't matter much which opportunity you choose because you'll choose the one that is right for "You".

The fact is, when you own and totally accept what's inside you, it doesn't matter what's outside you.

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In his first dozen years in MLM or Network Marketing, Steve Stay experienced what most people would call "total failure" and give them every reason they needed to give up the dream. But that wasn't part of Steve's script as one fateful day a shift happened inside him and the way he experienced the MLM industry dramatically shifted as well. Within three months he was a top earner in the industry. Discover more about Steve's honest take on his 36+ year personal MLM journey at: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/01/steve-stays-mlm-story.html

Part 1- MLM Myths and Misconceptions that Limit Success

by Steve Stay

After years of stumbling in the network marketing industry, I eventually learned a few things that turned it around for me. I assumed everyone else knew these things and that I was the only "Slow Child Playing" on the block. However, the difference between the size of the checks I was generating and those of the masses was more than I could ignore. Most had the same first class training materials. They had been taught all a person would need in regards to product, prospecting, closing, attitude, goal setting, etc. Yet most of the people didn't experience the success I did, and it wasn't that they weren't trying hard enough.

So I kept asking myself, "what exactly is it that I am doing differently?"

One day the thought occurred to me that maybe I had been asking the wrong question. That it may have nothing to do with what I had been Doing but what I was now Believing.

I started asking people some basic questions
about their Success Beliefs, beliefs that had
sabotaged my success so many times.

The problem was wide spread and picking up speed. Everywhere I looked I’d witness people getting excited as recruiters flashed big checks in front of them, telling them how, by combining a great company with a simple turn key system, they can also have checks like this showing up in their mailboxes. Add a few stories about so called "average" people, like them succeeding, and they jump in. Then about as quickly as they come in, a large majority fall out. The few that stick may make it financially worthwhile for the recruiters, but once I realized how damaging these tactics were, I could never go anywhere near recruiting that way and knowingly perpetuate this tragedy.

Are you, like the majority of people in network marketing, overwhelmed, stressed out and disappointed with your experience?

Do you ever feel like you were recruited to play basketball only to find the floor covered with ice, the hoops replaced with floor nets, instead of a ball there's a puck, and everyone else is wearing padding and gliding along on skates looking to pound you into the wall?

In this 11 Part series, I am going to share my take on what I feel are 10 Myths and Misconceptions that limit your Network Marketing Success.

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In his first dozen years in MLM or Network Marketing, Steve Stay experienced what most people would call "total failure" and give them every reason they needed to give up the dream. But that wasn't part of Steve's script as one fateful day a shift happened inside him and the way he experienced the MLM industry dramatically shifted as well. Within three months he was a top earner in the industry. Discover more about Steve's honest take on his 36+ year personal MLM journey at: http://stevestay.blogspot.com/2009/01/steve-stays-mlm-story.html